It’s hard to even imagine being able to approach your ex girlfriend when you are at a point where you don’t know for sure how she feels about you. When you know that she likes you, then it doesn’t take much to give yourself that little push to go ahead and approach her confidently. The sad thing is, most guys get off on the wrong foot when they try to approach their ex girlfriend and I don’t want to see you make the same mistake. The way that you approach her plays a very pivotal role in whether or not you and her end up back with one another. So, you can see that this is something that you are going to have to get right.
Here are some tips that will help you so that you CAN approach her the right way and set yourself up for success:
1) You have to get your mind right before you do anything else.
Getting back an ex girlfriend is part action and part mental. Really, the mental part of it is the biggest factor in what happens next. So, you want to get your mind in the right place before you go ahead and approach her. That means that you are going to have to get over the broken hearted feeling that you probably carry with you right now. Toss it aside and think about what it will be like when you have her back in your life. Get to work on making any improvements that you can make so that she will feel more attracted to you NOW than ever before.
2) Do NOT ask her out on a date or make her feel like it is a date.
If you ask your ex girlfriend out on a date, right away she knows what’s up. There is no mystery there. She knows that you want her back and since you are asking her out like that – she has ALL of the power in the world. You don’t want her to have all of the power. Plus, being that the «safe» thing for her to do is to say No, what do you think she is going to say to you? On the other hand, if you ask her to hang out and you don’t make it seem like a date (no dinner and a movie, here), then you can get «under her radar» and you are a lot more likely to hear her say Yes to you.
3) Treat her as if this is the FIRST time that you and her are hanging out.
It might sound strange, but if you can reframe the situation in your mind so that it seems like this is the first time hanging out and you are just trying to get to know her, it is going to be much easier to make her want you back. Why? Because that feeling that a woman feels when she knows that a guy is genuinely curious about her is electric to her. And, since you are acting like she is new in your life, you are not going to bring up old issues. So, you end up just having a good time and you and she will BOTH feel those sparks that you normally feel when you are first getting to know someone.