For most guys the idea of going on a first date with a woman they are attracted to can be an extremely stressful situation. Not only do you want to make sure it’s the most fantastic date she’s ever been on, you also want to make sure that you impress her so she will see you again.
In reality it doesn’t have to be like this, dating is meant to be fun if you don’t understand this you probably don’t date very often and rarely do you get a second date.
I want to talk about some of the most common mistakes that guys make when it comes to going on a first date with a woman who they would like to turn into a girlfriend.
The movie date. Never take a woman to the movies on your first date and the reason for this is simple. If you take a woman to the movies you basically sit there in silence for two hours and since you don’t really know her you don’t know what her favorite genre of movie is. The first date is an opportunity to get to know her better and to find out you actually want to see her again. If you’re sitting in silence you’re not that I find anything out about her.
The Saturday night date. Personally I would never go on a first date on a Saturday night or Friday nights. The reason for this is if you go on a date with a woman on a Friday or Saturday night and it turned out to be a bad date you have now lost the best two nights of the week. When you organize to catch up with the woman for the first time do it during a weeknight, this way if it’s a bad date you can tell her you have an early start tomorrow. On the other hand if it’s a great date you can leave her wanting more.
The perfect date: there is no such thing as a perfect date so don’t waste your time trying to plan it. The fact is you don’t know this woman very well at all, you may spend an hour or so with her in a nightclub and found out a little bit about her but not enough to organize the perfect date. Something else to note is if you put too much effort in on the first date you may come across as desperate to gain her approval.
Money. You don’t need to spend a fortune on a first date, personally when I date a woman for the first time I would never spend more than 10 or 20 bucks. The reason for this is I don’t feel I need to spend a fortune to enjoy the company of a beautiful woman.
The most important tip I can give you if you want to start enjoying dating more is to be in the moment. What I mean by that is most guys are more worried about if they’re going to get laid that night than they are about whether she’s actually enjoying herself. Listen to what she has to say and be interested keep the conversation flowing. Chances are she is as nervous as you are.