Somehow or other you actually got that woman you’ve been dying to ask out to actually sit across the table from you over a meal and now your mind is a complete blank. You smile bleakly, swallow hard and mumble something about the weather hoping to God that she doesn’t see you sweating profusely. Don’t panic, calm down, if you want to know how to talk to women you have to learn to listen first.
Talking about the weather will not get you to date number two, so let’s just get that out of the way right now. Asking lively open-ended questions about your date will. An open-ended question is any question that can’t be simply answered with a «yes» or «no» answer. Instead of asking, «Do you like sports?» (basically the first question out of most men’s mouths) which most women will automatically say, «no» faster than a bullet in the head, instead, open that genre up a bit. Try to say, «What are your hobbies?» or «How do you like to spend your free time?» This gives the woman the chance to elaborate on whether she’s involved in the sport of shopping on Black Friday, discovering the cure for cancer, or crafting little sweaters for her cat. Being a good listener is really what women want. We want men to listen to our heart-felt stories of that horrible woman cutting us off in the grocery line, how we saved the family turtle by turning it right-side up and our principals for not buying a product that makes only a nickel for a child in an Ecuadorian slave factory.
When you talk to a woman, show empathy and compassion in regards to the conversation. Be careful with this one because you don’t want to come off as unfeeling and cold but too much concern will make you appear a blubbering idiot. An example, would be when we talk about our mother or sister to you, because let’s face it, it’s inevitably going to happen. We will always bring up some tidbit about our loved one and what they did to upset us. If you respond with a typical uncompassionate response such as, «So what do you want me to do about it?» you’re just throwing fuel on the fire. Don’t feel the need to fix the problem. However, too much empathy such as, «That mother of yours is a real, let’s just never speak to her again.» Typically will get the lady defending her loving mother and make you the new person chapping her hide. Instead, offer a sympathetic ear without going overboard. «You have a legitimate gripe. Sit down and tell your mother how you feel about that and I’m sure you two can work it out,» should work just fine for you.
So now you’ve mastered the art of listening and now it’s your turn to say something. How do you talk to a woman? Do you tell her just what she wants to hear? That might work in the beginning but eventually your real self will come out. Start out being honest but not too honest. For example, talking endlessly about your ex-girlfriend and how many times you can fart in a minute is just too much honesty for anyone to handle. As a matter of fact, don’t ever mention any other women or bodily functions at all if possible…. even when we get insecure and beg for details about your last break-up. Don’t do it! Instead, try and be honest about where you want to be in the next five years. What are your long-term goals – and you better have some because no woman wants a burping couch screaming for a Hot Pocket. Talk about your dream to build your own house, or run a marathon, or if you so desire, your top gaming score and how you’ve got a new idea to make it better. Show some honest feelings and some ambition and you’ll gain her respect. Talk about bodily functions and you’ll be doomed to a single life forever.
So, there you have it, learning how to talk to women is as simple as that. Listen and show empathy, ask her about herself with open-ended questions and be honest about yourself and your feelings. When you find the right person you’ll realize you can talk for hours with ease and everything will fall into place, like brushing your teeth, and it will be effort-less.